A movement founded
by activist Chanel Contos lobbying for and providing holistic consent and
sexuality education.
A movement founded
by activist Chanel Contos lobbying for and providing holistic consent and
sexuality education.
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The following testimonies were sent to me by those who passionately believe that inadequate consent education is reason for their sexual abuse during or soon after school. Please note dates are the graduating years. Victims and perpetrators will
remain anonymous.

Trigger warning: sexual assault
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St Clare's College Waverley
When I was 15 I was talking to this boy who I'd just began being friends with. He had a girlfriend and my intentions were purely platonic I was even telling him about a girl I liked. We were sitting on a tree and he leans in while I�m talking and gropes me. I don�t notice for a little because I�m talking but when I do I swat away his hand and a couple minutes later he does it again I tell him to stop but he does it one more time. I kept being his friend because I didn�t realise he had done anything wrong I just thought we were becoming friends and that it was normal. I only realised this and many other things I had experienced were sexual harassment a year after when we had a sexual education program in school. It was just sad to realise that the people who had done this were people I considered my friends, my best friends even.
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When I was 15 I was talking to this boy who I’d just began being friends with. He had a girlfriend and my intentions were purely platonic I was even telling him about a girl I liked. We were sitting on a tree and he leans in while I’m talking and gropes me. I don’t notice for a little because I’m talking but when I do I swat away his hand and a couple minutes later he does it again I tell him to stop but he does it one more time. I kept being his friend because I didn’t realise he had done anything wrong I just thought we were becoming friends and that it was normal. I only realised this and many other things I had experienced were sexual harassment a year after when we had a sexual education program in school. It was just sad to realise that the people who had done this were people I considered my friends, my best friends even.

Brigidine Randwick

Teacher at our school was asked about their response to consent issues. She said “it will all blow over in a week”. [A senior member of staff] then stated “boys are hurting” due to consent movements.

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- 2021

Teacher at our school was asked about their response to consent issues. She said “it will all blow over in a week”. [A senior member of staff] then stated “boys are hurting” due to consent movements.

Kuringai High School
Between the age of 15-17 my ex boyfriend would frequently remove the condom during sex without my knowledge. I always felt awful, disrespected and hurt afterwards, but never knew it was a form of sexual assault until years later. When I was 16 he had sex with me after me saying 'no' several times. It wasn't aggressive or violent so I didn't know it was assault, he was significantly heavier than I was so I couldn't push him off me. A year later he confessed to me that he had raped another girl, three years on over 7 girls have accused him of rape. I was his first sexual relationship and I often feel if I had been more educated I could have changed his actions and attitudes before he hurt so many other girls.
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Kuringai High School - 2018

Between the age of 15-17 my ex boyfriend would frequently remove the condom during sex without my knowledge. I always felt awful, disrespected and hurt afterwards, but never knew it was a form of sexual assault until years later. When I was 16 he had sex with me after me saying ‘no’ several times. It wasn’t aggressive or violent so I didn’t know it was assault, he was significantly heavier than I was so I couldn’t push him off me. A year later he confessed to me that he had raped another girl, three years on over 7 girls have accused him of rape. I was his first sexual relationship and I often feel if I had been more educated I could have changed his actions and attitudes before he hurt so many other girls.

eltham college
teacher came unnecessarily close to me. i was sitting in a seat at a desk and he kneeled next to me, pushing his dick against my leg
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eltham college - 2020

teacher came unnecessarily close to me. i was sitting in a seat at a desk and he kneeled next to me, pushing his dick against my leg

Monte Sant Angelo mercy college
My sister was brutally raped by a Riverview boy in her final year of school. For years I had no idea why she would constantly say to me that when I go out I need to watch out for myself and my friends because as she would describe it 'no matter how in control you think you are, you aren't'. Not only did this sexual assault incident ruin her but it also led to a serious eating disorder in which she is still recovering. It makes me sick that this boy thought it was okay to take so much away from my gorgeous sister who had so much to give.
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Monte Sant Angelo mercy college - 2020

My sister was brutally raped by a Riverview boy in her final year of school. For years I had no idea why she would constantly say to me that when I go out I need to watch out for myself and my friends because as she would describe it ‘no matter how in control you think you are, you aren’t’. Not only did this sexual assault incident ruin her but it also led to a serious eating disorder in which she is still recovering. It makes me sick that this boy thought it was okay to take so much away from my gorgeous sister who had so much to give.

Brigidine College Randwick
I went out with the [friendship group] one night who I believe attended Waverley college 2012/13, to the Golden Sheaf. I had only had one drink at the pre drinks, at their house before arrival, then within 30 minutes all my memory was gone, and I completely blacked out. I woke up at the boys house completely naked, passed out on the couch, with one boy naked on the same couch. I do not remember leaving the sheaf or arriving at the house. There were other boys in other rooms, but no other girls. I couldn't even find my clothes when I had woken up. I went to tell the police, but the security cameras at the sheaf had already been deleted, so I blamed it on myself for being blackout when I really don�t think i was from alcohol.
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Brigidine College Randwick - 2015

I went out with the [friendship group] one night who I believe attended Waverley college 2012/13, to the Golden Sheaf. I had only had one drink at the pre drinks, at their house before arrival, then within 30 minutes all my memory was gone, and I completely blacked out. I woke up at the boys house completely naked, passed out on the couch, with one boy naked on the same couch. I do not remember leaving the sheaf or arriving at the house. There were other boys in other rooms, but no other girls. I couldn’t even find my clothes when I had woken up. I went to tell the police, but the security cameras at the sheaf had already been deleted, so I blamed it on myself for being blackout when I really don’t think i was from alcohol.

Mercy college Chatswood
My friend recently told me about a situation in which she was assaulted, however she didn't even realise. He didn�t take no for an answer but eventually did. He was annoyed after because she stopped him so she left her by herself in the middle of no where at 1am. I believe he goes to Joeys in hunters hill.
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Mercy college Chatswood - Haven't graduated (yr12)

My friend recently told me about a situation in which she was assaulted, however she didn’t even realise. He didn’t take no for an answer but eventually did. He was annoyed after because she stopped him so she left her by herself in the middle of no where at 1am. I believe he goes to Joeys in hunters hill.

Pymble Ladies' College
I went drinking with someone I believed to be a friend from St Aloysius a few months after graduating. I had a boyfriend at the time and I had very much thought the night would be a catch-up with a friend. We bought some drinks and sat in a park to talk. Having only turned 18 four days prior to this night, I overestimated how much liquor I could handle and got quite intoxicated to the point where I passed out. When I woke up I found myself lying in the grass with him on top of me. My jeans and underwear had been taken off and he was trying to have sex with me. I cried and told him to stop repeatedly but I wasn't able to fight him off and I passed out from the pain of what was happening to me. When I woke up again, I was still lying in the grass on the side of the road. I will never forget how cold it felt - it was maybe 2am in winter. My jeans had been put back on and my underwear had been shoved in my pocket. My 'friend' was nowhere to be found and I was completely alone. For a long time I felt so ashamed and blamed myself for putting myself in a position where something like that could happen to me. The shame was only worsened when I tried to report the incident to police. They asked me questions about how much I had had to drink and what I was wearing at the time. I now know that what happened that night is not my fault. The culture of victim blaming is so steeped in our society that even our law enforcers are guilty of it. Thank you for giving the survivors a voice, an opportunity to change this harmful and dangerous rhetoric that is so ingrained in our culture. 'Boys will be boys' can no longer be the status quo. Perpetrators of sexual violence must be held accountable for their actions and consent needs to be the primary tenet of sexual education in our schools.
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Pymble Ladies' College - 2015

I went drinking with someone I believed to be a friend from St Aloysius a few months after graduating. I had a boyfriend at the time and I had very much thought the night would be a catch-up with a friend. We bought some drinks and sat in a park to talk. Having only turned 18 four days prior to this night, I overestimated how much liquor I could handle and got quite intoxicated to the point where I passed out. When I woke up I found myself lying in the grass with him on top of me. My jeans and underwear had been taken off and he was trying to have sex with me. I cried and told him to stop repeatedly but I wasn’t able to fight him off and I passed out from the pain of what was happening to me. When I woke up again, I was still lying in the grass on the side of the road. I will never forget how cold it felt – it was maybe 2am in winter. My jeans had been put back on and my underwear had been shoved in my pocket. My ‘friend’ was nowhere to be found and I was completely alone. For a long time I felt so ashamed and blamed myself for putting myself in a position where something like that could happen to me. The shame was only worsened when I tried to report the incident to police. They asked me questions about how much I had had to drink and what I was wearing at the time. I now know that what happened that night is not my fault. The culture of victim blaming is so steeped in our society that even our law enforcers are guilty of it. Thank you for giving the survivors a voice, an opportunity to change this harmful and dangerous rhetoric that is so ingrained in our culture. ‘Boys will be boys’ can no longer be the status quo. Perpetrators of sexual violence must be held accountable for their actions and consent needs to be the primary tenet of sexual education in our schools.

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