The following testimonies were sent to Teach Us Consent by those who passionately believe that inadequate consent education is reason for their sexual abuse during or soon after school. Please note dates are the graduating years. Victims and perpetrators will remain anonymous.
Trigger warning: sexual assault
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I feel so fortunate to say i have no story of my own, but know of an excruciating amount. However during my time at school, there were two video recordings of girls in the years below me being raped and/or sexually assaulted, whilst they were compromised by intoxication, circulating on people’s phones and social media. They were filmed by other boys and sent around.
I’d had a fight with a friend at a party at his house and we were in his room, I was crying and he was comforting me. He then tried to have sex with me. I kept telling him to stop and that I had a boyfriend, but he wouldn’t. The next day I texted him about what had happened in case he was too drunk to remember. He replied back with, “it takes two to tango”.
I am not sure if this is rape but at age 10 I was forced me a (boy) by another boy much older then me to give oral and I don’t know if this is still rape but I still have really nightmares every night and I don’t know who to tell
A senior school student from Melbourne grammar told everyone I had engaged in sex acts with him all year. None of it was true. I hate to think how that would’ve played out now in an age of social media and having a camera in your pocket at all times. It was also standard behaviour to be groped without consent by senior school students from Saint Kevins, Melbourne grammar, and Scotch College on the street, on public transport, at parties, at any chance really.
Me and my friend went to the races and then out with 2 of our guy ‘friends’, we ran into another friend and he had said to them ‘just go back to mine I’m sleeping at my girlfriends house’ so we went back there and later on when I was asleep in bed (by myself) he came home around 3am and was pinning me down trying to have sex with me (I was a virgin). I ended up kicking him into a wall and screaming stop for about 25 minutes. He was never able to actually put it inside me but it was so scary. My guy friend was awake on the couch listening to me scream stop for all of that time and didn’t even come in to stop him or see what was happening. I have been with one of their friends for 5 years now, and they always talk about the situation saying ‘yeah it was bad I could just hear her screaming stop’, yet they didn’t even come in to help me. I’m now forced to be friends with these men because of my boyfriend.
I was at my first ever party. I was fully sober and a boy from Scotch college (VIC) graduating year 20xx started hitting on me. By the end of the night we were in a room alone when he sexually assaulted me. After, he told me I should be grateful because no one else would be willing to sleep with me.
We graduated school with zero knowledge about sex. Because it was a ‘Christian’ school, they basically said don’t have sex before marriage, and that was it. It was the same for drugs and alcohol, they just put their heads in the sand.
In my final week of school at a party, I had alcohol for the first time. I was very drunk and was assaulted by 3 different guys over the course of the night. Numerous times I would tell them to stop, but I remember so clearly that they thought because I was uncomfortable and in pain, I liked it. Porn teaches kids the wrong message, and this is what they have to learn from when the school (and parents) don’t teach anything properly.
Dumb idea- parents need to do more