A movement founded
by activist Chanel Contos lobbying for and providing holistic consent and
sexuality education.
A movement founded
by activist Chanel Contos lobbying for and providing holistic consent and
sexuality education.
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The following testimonies were sent to me by those who passionately believe that inadequate consent education is reason for their sexual abuse during or soon after school. Please note dates are the graduating years. Victims and perpetrators will
remain anonymous.

Trigger warning: sexual assault
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Emanuel School
I was 17. We had been friends since the 7th grade, we were in the same year and everyone was so excited to graduate. One night in August he asked to crash at my place because he didn't want to take public transport all the way home so of course, I agreed, I wanted everyone to be safe. That night he took my virginity, it didn't matter what I said he had made up his mind. I said no and he told me he'd put a condom on just in case. I snatched it away from him and said that I wasn't going to give him an excuse to use it, but it didn't matter. He ended up telling people that I was "into him" and people used the warped information he gave as gossip. At our formal hee came up to me, he called me every name in the book. Told me I was a c**t and a slut and grabbed my arm. Everything came flooding back. No one at our school was ever taught anything different. No one spoke about this stuff. Everyone eventually learns, but this... this should never be how.
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Emanuel School - 2017

I was 17. We had been friends since the 7th grade, we were in the same year and everyone was so excited to graduate. One night in August he asked to crash at my place because he didn’t want to take public transport all the way home so of course, I agreed, I wanted everyone to be safe. That night he took my virginity, it didn’t matter what I said he had made up his mind. I said no and he told me he’d put a condom on just in case. I snatched it away from him and said that I wasn’t going to give him an excuse to use it, but it didn’t matter. He ended up telling people that I was “into him” and people used the warped information he gave as gossip. At our formal hee came up to me, he called me every name in the book. Told me I was a c**t and a slut and grabbed my arm. Everything came flooding back. No one at our school was ever taught anything different. No one spoke about this stuff. Everyone eventually learns, but this… this should never be how.

Mount St Benedict
When I was 13 years old I met up with a boy and he told me he planned a nice picnic in the park. I met him at the train station and we started walking, but we didn't walk towards the local park we walked towards the M2 motorway. He led me into some bushes and pulled his pants down and forced me to give him head. I was so embarrassed , I felt so personally ashamed and never told anyone about it. On another occasion he invited me to his house and I refused, he told me his grandmother had died and he needed comfort. I felt sorry for him and went. When I got to his place he tried to get me to undress and cuddle with him, I told him I didn't want to, and then he started trying to remove my clothes himself. I got up and ran. When I was 14 I had my first boyfriend and he told me that after being together 6 months we should've had sex. I didn't feel ready but he kept telling me it was normal and he wanted to because he loved me so much. The sex was painful and uncomfortable and I never enjoyed it. It's only now at around 19 that I've started to enjoy sex. Boys have always told me I'm so 'tight' and they love it - in reality I have always been so uncomfortable. At around 15 years old I started meeting up with a 19 year old boy, I thought I was so mature and we had sex despite the 4 year age gap - I was in year 10 and he was 2 years out of school. I only now realise at 19 years old myself that any kind of sexual relationship with a 15 year old is disgusting and inappropriate. At 17 years old I drank alcohol for the first time, I was at a party and didn't want my parents to know I was drinking so I slept over. I woke up in the night to feel the host touching my vagina, when I asked him what he was doing he said 'oh sorry I thought you were sleeping'. He was one of my best friends so I just pretended it never happened. Years later he called me and told me how traumatic it was for him and I was in shock. I really didn't want to have contact with him but I was so scared he was going to harm himself so I listened to his stories about assaulting other women. The worst thing is I still constantly hear men say that feminism isn't needed in Sydney Australia. I can't study at uni after dark because I'm so afraid of being sexually harassed or assaulted. Because the 'nice' guy that offers me a lift home thinks he deserves a kiss at the end for being so 'nice'
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Mount St Benedict - 2018

When I was 13 years old I met up with a boy and he told me he planned a nice picnic in the park. I met him at the train station and we started walking, but we didn’t walk towards the local park we walked towards the M2 motorway. He led me into some bushes and pulled his pants down and forced me to give him head. I was so embarrassed , I felt so personally ashamed and never told anyone about it. On another occasion he invited me to his house and I refused, he told me his grandmother had died and he needed comfort. I felt sorry for him and went. When I got to his place he tried to get me to undress and cuddle with him, I told him I didn’t want to, and then he started trying to remove my clothes himself. I got up and ran. When I was 14 I had my first boyfriend and he told me that after being together 6 months we should’ve had sex. I didn’t feel ready but he kept telling me it was normal and he wanted to because he loved me so much. The sex was painful and uncomfortable and I never enjoyed it. It’s only now at around 19 that I’ve started to enjoy sex. Boys have always told me I’m so ‘tight’ and they love it – in reality I have always been so uncomfortable. At around 15 years old I started meeting up with a 19 year old boy, I thought I was so mature and we had sex despite the 4 year age gap – I was in year 10 and he was 2 years out of school. I only now realise at 19 years old myself that any kind of sexual relationship with a 15 year old is disgusting and inappropriate. At 17 years old I drank alcohol for the first time, I was at a party and didn’t want my parents to know I was drinking so I slept over. I woke up in the night to feel the host touching my vagina, when I asked him what he was doing he said ‘oh sorry I thought you were sleeping’. He was one of my best friends so I just pretended it never happened. Years later he called me and told me how traumatic it was for him and I was in shock. I really didn’t want to have contact with him but I was so scared he was going to harm himself so I listened to his stories about assaulting other women. The worst thing is I still constantly hear men say that feminism isn’t needed in Sydney Australia. I can’t study at uni after dark because I’m so afraid of being sexually harassed or assaulted. Because the ‘nice’ guy that offers me a lift home thinks he deserves a kiss at the end for being so ‘nice’

The Glennie School
I had an experience when I was in grade 9 he’d been drinking and thought I was asleep, I was too scared to move or speak so I just laid there with my eyes closed and waited for it to be over. Now I’m at uni and at a public party on campus a grown guy thinks it’s ok to grab my vagina from behind and then follow me and grab my ass. It’s increasingly clear that these people need to be educated. I worry sometimes even with an education about it it’ll keep happening, but it needs to start somewhere. GOGA, 2021
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The Glennie School - 2021

I had an experience when I was in grade 9 he’d been drinking and thought I was asleep, I was too scared to move or speak so I just laid there with my eyes closed and waited for it to be over.

Now I’m at uni and at a public party on campus a grown guy thinks it’s ok to grab my vagina from behind and then follow me and grab my ass.

It’s increasingly clear that these people need to be educated. I worry sometimes even with an education about it it’ll keep happening, but it needs to start somewhere.
GOGA, 2021

Torrens Valley Christian School
For the entirety of term 3 and 4 i found myself in an awful “relationship” with a boy. I was under the impression we were not dating but somehow he thought we were. I was in a really bad headspace and at first his attention and what i thought was “love” was nice. However, i took me nearly 2 years to realise his actions we abusive, manipulative and assault. Every day of term 3 and 4 i was assaulted during class and in lunch times. The teachers did not notice, but how could they not notice his hands in my pants and me crying in the back of the class. Everyone in the class was aware of what was going on including all his friends and no one did anything. They were under the impression that i was a whore and i wanted it. When he and i had a fight, and ended our fling he threatened to leak private photos of me to the school and showed all his friends. My christian school did not teach me what he was doing was assault i thought it was love and affection. This ordeal caused immense trauma and i moved schools. In “sex ed” i learnt what pads were not consent and i curse the school every day that i was not taught about consent until later on at a new school. Not only from my experience but from other girls too of teachers being inappropriate and making disgusting gestures when they are meant to provide a safe and caring environment. Other girls who experienced the same from different boys had the bravery to tell teacher when i felt i couldnt because i wouldnt have been believed. The school refused to assist in help and refused to assist in any kind of legal matter in fear of a bad reputation. Torrens valley christian school is filled with abusers, assaulters, rapists and groomers. We as women deserved better
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Torrens Valley Christian School - 2021

For the entirety of term 3 and 4 i found myself in an awful “relationship” with a boy. I was under the impression we were not dating but somehow he thought we were. I was in a really bad headspace and at first his attention and what i thought was “love” was nice. However, i took me nearly 2 years to realise his actions we abusive, manipulative and assault. Every day of term 3 and 4 i was assaulted during class and in lunch times. The teachers did not notice, but how could they not notice his hands in my pants and me crying in the back of the class. Everyone in the class was aware of what was going on including all his friends and no one did anything. They were under the impression that i was a whore and i wanted it. When he and i had a fight, and ended our fling he threatened to leak private photos of me to the school and showed all his friends. My christian school did not teach me what he was doing was assault i thought it was love and affection. This ordeal caused immense trauma and i moved schools. In “sex ed” i learnt what pads were not consent and i curse the school every day that i was not taught about consent until later on at a new school. Not only from my experience but from other girls too of teachers being inappropriate and making disgusting gestures when they are meant to provide a safe and caring environment. Other girls who experienced the same from different boys had the bravery to tell teacher when i felt i couldnt because i wouldnt have been believed. The school refused to assist in help and refused to assist in any kind of legal matter in fear of a bad reputation. Torrens valley christian school is filled with abusers, assaulters, rapists and groomers. We as women deserved better

Loreto Kirribili
When I was 16 I woke up to my boyfriend having sex with me. He was a Knox boy. When I was 17 I woke up to a St Aloysious boy fingering me and touching me at a sleepover with our friends. When I was 18 a Sydney Grammer boy forced me into a bush and told me to be quiet as he got ontop of me and tried to kiss me. At this point I just got angry. I hit him and didn't talk to him again. I ran home crying. He told everyone I was a selfish bitch and a slut. I then went to ANU. My friend got raped in the first week by a johns boy.
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Loreto Kirribili - 2017

When I was 16 I woke up to my boyfriend having sex with me. He was a Knox boy. When I was 17 I woke up to a St Aloysious boy fingering me and touching me at a sleepover with our friends.
When I was 18 a Sydney Grammer boy forced me into a bush and told me to be quiet as he got ontop of me and tried to kiss me. At this point I just got angry. I hit him and didn’t talk to him again. I ran home crying. He told everyone I was a selfish bitch and a slut. I then went to ANU. My friend got raped in the first week by a johns boy.

Wenona
I was at wenona, he was at shore. We'd been dating for a few months and he decided to put his hands into my underwear when I was asleep and try to take off my skirt. I was 16 at the time and didn't realise until a few months after how much it would come up in certain situations again
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Wenona -

I was at wenona, he was at shore. We’d been dating for a few months and he decided to put his hands into my underwear when I was asleep and try to take off my skirt. I was 16 at the time and didn’t realise until a few months after how much it would come up in certain situations again

Oxley High
A member of the auxiliary staff would constantly hold me up to chat explicitly with me on school grounds under the guise of being friendly. I had no idea at the time what he even meant when he said things like "bet your boyfriend would split you in half you are so tiny and look who you picked". and constantly asking me if i was a virgin and what i did do with my "boyfriend" I was na'�ve and my 'boyfriend who was Aboriginal, consisted of walking around the oval together at lunch.
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Oxley High - 1990

A member of the auxiliary staff would constantly hold me up to chat explicitly with me on school grounds under the guise of being friendly. I had no idea at the time what he even meant when he said things like “bet your boyfriend would split you in half you are so tiny and look who you picked”. and constantly asking me if i was a virgin and what i did do with my “boyfriend” I was na”ve and my ‘boyfriend who was Aboriginal, consisted of walking around the oval together at lunch.

Caulfield Grammar
I was alone in a bedroom with a St Kevin's boy, he was trying to have sex with me. I kept telling him no because I didn't feel comfortable with him and he was starting to scare me. Eventually I told him I wanted to leave, at this point I was getting so scared because he was stronger than me. He kept guilting me by saying 'come on 5 more minutes' 'stay' and I was getting more uncomfortable by the second. Luckily he ended up letting me leave, but the fact I even had to convince him to let me leave is disgusting. I ended up crying in the bathroom after it had happened because I was in shock. Still to this day it crosses my mind and I am always so thankful I didn't have more alcohol that night before it happened.
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Caulfield Grammar - 2019

I was alone in a bedroom with a St Kevin’s boy, he was trying to have sex with me. I kept telling him no because I didn’t feel comfortable with him and he was starting to scare me. Eventually I told him I wanted to leave, at this point I was getting so scared because he was stronger than me. He kept guilting me by saying ‘come on 5 more minutes’ ‘stay’ and I was getting more uncomfortable by the second. Luckily he ended up letting me leave, but the fact I even had to convince him to let me leave is disgusting. I ended up crying in the bathroom after it had happened because I was in shock. Still to this day it crosses my mind and I am always so thankful I didn’t have more alcohol that night before it happened.

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