Testimonies

We went to the same coed private school. I was out one night with the entire group, my boyfriend and I broke up and he left. I kept drinking. His best mate told me he'd 'look after me' and told me he hadn't been drinking. He said he'd drive me home and make sure I got home safely. He drove me to his house. He then told me he was too drunk to drive any further (when I asked if he could drive me home). He lead me to a bed, undressed me and raped me, I was so drunk I couldn't stand. The entire time I shut my eyes and promised that 'it would be over soon'. Immediately afterwards he drove me home and mentioned I shouldn't say anything to anyone on because of my ex. I didn't register this as assault until 2 years after it happened. I internalised it and it fucked me up.

I (male) was 17. A few of us from the country were invited to a big party. The drugs and alcohol there were eye opening to me and I ended up getting black out drunk. I hardly knew anyone there and ended up passing out in a spare room. I woke up the next morning gasping for air as a guy I didn't know was forcing his penis down my throat. Even more horrifying was his friend next to us holding my arms so I couldn't struggle.

In 2013 I was raped by a boy from X. I was 13, he was older than me. He put a cupboard against the door and told me it was ok. It was my virginity and I never understood until I was about 16 that it wasn't okay. I told him no multiple times, he messaged me that week saying don't tell anyone and I said I wouldn't.. he then screen shotted it and sent it around to prove to people that it was true. I didn't realise it was so bad because I felt the pressure to lose my virginity at such a young age but the people around me. It wasn't until 2 years later it sunk in.

There was a kid from a school i had briefly attended who was in year 9 at the time who was known as 'a bad boy' and had picked up a few girls before who one day AT SCHOOL he decided he would lead a girl to behind the storage and forced her to give him a hand job and repeatedly said 'this is for me' to this girl who was distraught and just kept on going so he wouldn't hit her (he had done before) when the story came out instead of the school addressing the issue of consent they swept the story under the carpet and THE GIRL GOT SUSPENDED SHE WAS ASSAULTED AND THEY IGNORED HER AND SUSPENDED HER

I was at a party where some groups of X boys were behaving really immaturely and inappropriately. Later we found out that one of the X boys raped one of our friends that was passed out drunk. Multiple of her and his friends walked in on them and many said they saw him having intercourse with her unconscious, but not one person stopped him. He was treated like a champion for it - posting photos of them together, hyping him up. Nothing was ever said to him.

He was a X boy. He digitally penetrated me so aggressively I bled. He did it in front of people and everyone thought I had my period and as a result I was bullied and told how disgusting I was. Little did they know I had been in severe physical pain, felt completely violated and was alone. He suffered no repercussions and went along with the rumour. The worst part was that some of My girlfriends abandoned me or fuelled the rumour. I was 15 at the time, and am now X. I have only just been able to talk about it openly without panicking or feeling gross. This is one of several stories where a private school boy took advantage of me and left me violated. My way of dealing with it is telling myself that their actions do not define me and will never define me. But unfortunately I break at times.

My friend's brother has stopped catching the bus with her because other boys in his year have started to make sexual jokes about her, insulting her appearance and commenting on her body etc. He has asked them numerous times to stop but they tell him he needs to 'lighten up' and 'can't take a harmless joke'. He hasn't even told her what they've said, because it's that vulgar. While I know this is not sexual assault, I do believe it's still harmful behaviour. It made my friend's brother extremely uncomfortable and it's just so frustrating to think neither she or he can really do anything about it. Stuff like this happens all the time. We need to stop accepting this as normal.

I was at a party and very drunk. He led me onto the parents boat. I said no.. a lot. He told me he would push me off the boat unless I let him have sex with me. Eventually I just let him. He told everyone I fucked him and another guy at the same time in front of people.

I once passed out at a party and woke up in a dark room with a penis in my mouth. at the time I asked who is this and what were they doing, my boyfriend at the time then slapped me and told me 'it's your boyfriend you fucking slut'. Almost 6 years later I have now developed a fear of sleeping in the dark and oral sex. A few years later I started bringing it up to my friends that that had happened to me. No one believed me because 'he's a nice guy'. The thing is I genuinely do not think he realised what he was doing was sexual assault, because to him I was his girlfriend and we had sex all the time. That's why It is so important that boys are educated from an early age as I don't think that would of happened to me if that boy knew what he was really doing.

A family friend of mine was in year 12 when I was in year 10, so introduced me to some of his friends. One of those guys had hooked up with a few of my friends, been very friendly and welcoming and even been to my house (with other people). My friends and I friends were 15 at the time, and he was 18. He 'accidentally' left his jumper at my house. I'd had a migraine for a week conjoined with a heavy period, that my gp was treating with heavy pain killers. At the end of the week when my migraine was worst, he messaged me, came over to 'pick up his jumper' but instead of leaving, started kissing me in bed. I resisted, told him I was on my period. He took me into the shower and left me bruised. Obviously, I was already bleeding. That was my first time with a guy. Only four years later have I come to accept I was raped.

At 16 I was sexually coerced by a boy at X who was in the same year as me. Didn't know anything about consent, and that I was able to stand up for myself. I thought that if I said no to sex I would be broken up with. If I had been taught about consent I probably wouldn't have let it happen. And I probably wouldn't still have nightmares about it.

I was 13, and my family had recently moved to Australia. I was starting to come to terms with my sexuality, realising that I was gay, though I didn't come out or have sex until I was 21. I went to a Christian private school, people were nice to me in my first month or so. One day, a boy who had started bullying me cornered me in a classroom. He called me faggot and started rubbing his crotch, saying I should perform oral sex so I can get some experience and know if I enjoy it or not. I denied that I was gay, and tried to leave. He pulled out his erect penis, to which then I shoved him away and ran to the bathroom to hide. I've never told anyone about this. It was later in life that I realised sexual harassment is not just physical, it is also verbal.

I was preyed on by a guy two years above me when I was 15 and anorexic. He used to drive me home as he lived close and had a car. A few times we kissed consensually, though in retrospect I felt pressure that it was the right way to thank him for the lift and he was very forward. But one day he told me 'it's okay if you come sit on my lap' during a kiss in the car. I didn't know how to refuse, so I did. He then proceeded to grind on my crotch while kissing and putting his hands all over me until he came in his pants. In his school shorts. I didn't even understand sex and orgasms at that point and had no idea what was happening- I just took myself out of my body and waited for him to stop.

I was dating a boy from X, we both graduated in the same year, and I went to X. One day in 2019 I picked him up drunk from the train station. He got in the car and physically forced me to pull over by grabbing the steering wheel and threatening to jump out if I don't. I pulled over and he forced me to get into the back seat and he told me that if I loved him I'd let him fuck me in the ass. I said I really didn't want it but that I loved him anyway, and he didn't care or listen and proceeded to force me down, and through tears and me begging him to stop, he still went ahead with it. I was with him for another year, and I had no idea that that was considered rape because of my lack of education. I assumed because we were in a relationship, it was ok.

I kissed a girl that I had gone out with to the movies without asking or her leaning in. It was at the end of the date, it happened while hugging her goodbye. I didn't realise how wrongly I had misread the entire situation until part of the way through the kiss as she did nothing at first but then pulled back. It was with tongue as well so I felt that makes it more invasive and therefore a whole lot worse. Not at any point was I told both at my old school and then current one how to go about kissing someone.