A movement founded
by activist Chanel Contos lobbying for and providing holistic consent and
sexuality education.
A movement founded
by activist Chanel Contos lobbying for and providing holistic consent and
sexuality education.
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The following testimonies were sent to me by those who passionately believe that inadequate consent education is reason for their sexual abuse during or soon after school. Please note dates are the graduating years. Victims and perpetrators will
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Trigger warning: sexual assault
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SCEGGS Darlinghurst

I went to a party with friends and while I was dancing a guy kept groping my ass. I kept pushing his hand away telling him to stop and he wouldn’t. It took me moving to the other side of the room for it to stop. He just looked at me and laughed it off with mates. The worst part is all his female friends shrugged it off and didn’t call him out on his behaviour.

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- 2012

I went to a party with friends and while I was dancing a guy kept groping my ass. I kept pushing his hand away telling him to stop and he wouldn’t. It took me moving to the other side of the room for it to stop. He just looked at me and laughed it off with mates. The worst part is all his female friends shrugged it off and didn’t call him out on his behaviour.

St Paul's Anglican Grammar School (VIC)
At a party older boys got two girls drunk, took off their clothes and demanded they get in the bath. Whilst they made out in the bath about 10 boys watched and filmed. I tried to shut it down, was called a 'cockblock' and then I was pushed out of the room and the door was locked.
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St Paul's Anglican Grammar School (VIC) - 2015

At a party older boys got two girls drunk, took off their clothes and demanded they get in the bath. Whilst they made out in the bath about 10 boys watched and filmed. I tried to shut it down, was called a ‘cockblock’ and then I was pushed out of the room and the door was locked.

Wenona
I graduated wenona in 20XX, and reading all the testimonies is making me sick. I have countless friends from my school, Queenwood, SCEGGS Redlands, Mosman high and so on who have experiences sexual abuse and sexual assault. I remember the first time I got assaulted at age 15, by a boy at Redlands, it was horrific. I can't even put into words. Since then, I have probably been assaulted / abused over 10 times by various men. Recently I encountered sexual assault at age XX. He was my boyfriend. He did not go to a private school. I would wake up to him in my bedroom, standing, staring at me. He had broken in. Other times I would wake up to him inside me, having sex with me. He was my boyfriend at the time, and I thought it was acceptable. I trusted him... so I thought. This would happen countless times... me waking up to him inside me. Also when I would be having a shower he would join me, and as I would be washing my hair, he would insert himself inside me, to which I would tell him to stop. Sometimes he did, other times he didn't. He also had a kink for 'rape fantasy' and would try and force me to 'play' and 'try'. I would refuse. Thankfully he would honour my wishes. However it was still frightening. I can't even put my stories into words as it is so frightening. Recently (I am now XX) I went to the police about him. To report him breaking in. I was asked if I want to press charges against sexual assault... however if I do, I have to go through copious meetings, tests, examinations, and I get passed onto a detective. I will then need to go to court, testify, have a lawyer etc. It has made me so scared to press these charges, I do not want to relive it. Especially out loud, I front of a jury.
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Wenona - 2013

I graduated wenona in 20XX, and reading all the testimonies is making me sick. I have countless friends from my school, Queenwood, SCEGGS Redlands, Mosman high and so on who have experiences sexual abuse and sexual assault.
I remember the first time I got assaulted at age 15, by a boy at Redlands, it was horrific. I can’t even put into words. Since then, I have probably been assaulted / abused over 10 times by various men.

Recently I encountered sexual assault at age XX. He was my boyfriend. He did not go to a private school. I would wake up to him in my bedroom, standing, staring at me. He had broken in. Other times I would wake up to him inside me, having sex with me. He was my boyfriend at the time, and I thought it was acceptable. I trusted him… so I thought.
This would happen countless times… me waking up to him inside me.
Also when I would be having a shower he would join me, and as I would be washing my hair, he would insert himself inside me, to which I would tell him to stop. Sometimes he did, other times he didn’t.
He also had a kink for ‘rape fantasy’ and would try and force me to ‘play’ and ‘try’.
I would refuse. Thankfully he would honour my wishes. However it was still frightening.
I can’t even put my stories into words as it is so frightening.

Recently (I am now XX) I went to the police about him. To report him breaking in. I was asked if I want to press charges against sexual assault… however if I do, I have to go through copious meetings, tests, examinations, and I get passed onto a detective. I will then need to go to court, testify, have a lawyer etc.
It has made me so scared to press these charges, I do not want to relive it. Especially out loud, I front of a jury.

PLC Sydney
How I lost my virginity. It was one of the first nights I'd ever drank alcohol (and happened to be on the night of my 15th birthday). I was staying over at a friends house because she had a free. We got absolutely incoherent drunk then she invited boys from her school over. One of them had sex with me then the girl came in and video'd it. I was so drunk I didn't remember his name until I was told the next day. I still don't know anything about what he looks like. First time was ruined.
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How I lost my virginity. It was one of the first nights I’d ever drank alcohol (and happened to be on the night of my 15th birthday). I was staying over at a friends house because she had a free. We got absolutely incoherent drunk then she invited boys from her school over. One of them had sex with me then the girl came in and video’d it. I was so drunk I didn’t remember his name until I was told the next day. I still don’t know anything about what he looks like. First time was ruined.

Kingsgrove North High School
I was lucky enough to discover fanfiction during my high school years. This allowed me to explore what I liked, what I didn't like, what was healthy and what definitely was not. Being invested in fandom culture really assisted me. This should not be the way children and teenagers should learn about sex and healthy relationships. I don't remember receiving any sexual education in high school aside from reproductive health and 'this is what a period is' as well as different types of birth control until we were 16/17 at a camp. We didn't even get the 'put the banana on the condom' talk.
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Kingsgrove North High School - 2016

I was lucky enough to discover fanfiction during my high school years. This allowed me to explore what I liked, what I didn’t like, what was healthy and what definitely was not. Being invested in fandom culture really assisted me.

This should not be the way children and teenagers should learn about sex and healthy relationships. I don’t remember receiving any sexual education in high school aside from reproductive health and ‘this is what a period is’ as well as different types of birth control until we were 16/17 at a camp. We didn’t even get the ‘put the banana on the condom’ talk.

Parramatta high
I am so glad to have gone to the same school as you thank you for all your efforts all the girls i know love you
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Parramatta high - 2016

I am so glad to have gone to the same school as you
thank you for all your efforts all the girls i know love you

N/A
Have been harassed and assaulted by young men who went to a prominent government funded academic selective school in Melbourne, Victoria.
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N/A - 2011

Have been harassed and assaulted by young men who went to a prominent government funded academic selective school in Melbourne, Victoria.

Moreton Bay College, QLD
I graduated in 2016 from MBC in QLD which was an all girls school. Our school's sexual education program never explained consent, the different types of rape, sexual assualt or what to do if you were sexually assaulted. It also never discussed lesbian, gay, or other types of LGBT+ relationships and/or sexual experiences and intercourse. Our school was closely affiliated to Iona Boys College, from which school I was sexually assaulted. In grade 9 I was repeatedly asked upwards of 10 times to perform a sexual act for the Iona College Boy, of which I repeatedly refused and said �no�. This badgering continued and escalated to me being pushed up against a wall, intimidated and sexually assaulted. The boy was also in grade 9 at the time. Moreton Bay College did not even begin sexual education until grade 10 and even then it was minimally detailed, did not include any information about the type of sexual act I was asked to perform and had nothing about consent or my rights as a young adult. It also did not include what to do and how to deal with this trauma. This is one of many story�s between Moreton Bay College and Iona College, of which I know several of a far worse and abusive nature but they are not my story to tell. Thank you for making this petition, even though I have now graduated university it feels amazing to possibly be apart of change for a younger generation who is living in a hypersexualised world.
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Moreton Bay College, QLD - 2016

I graduated in 2016 from MBC in QLD which was an all girls school. Our school’s sexual education program never explained consent, the different types of rape, sexual assualt or what to do if you were sexually assaulted. It also never discussed lesbian, gay, or other types of LGBT+ relationships and/or sexual experiences and intercourse. Our school was closely affiliated to Iona Boys College, from which school I was sexually assaulted. In grade 9 I was repeatedly asked upwards of 10 times to perform a sexual act for the Iona College Boy, of which I repeatedly refused and said ‘no’. This badgering continued and escalated to me being pushed up against a wall, intimidated and sexually assaulted. The boy was also in grade 9 at the time. Moreton Bay College did not even begin sexual education until grade 10 and even then it was minimally detailed, did not include any information about the type of sexual act I was asked to perform and had nothing about consent or my rights as a young adult. It also did not include what to do and how to deal with this trauma. This is one of many story’s between Moreton Bay College and Iona College, of which I know several of a far worse and abusive nature but they are not my story to tell. Thank you for making this petition, even though I have now graduated university it feels amazing to possibly be apart of change for a younger generation who is living in a hypersexualised world.

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